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Highly recommended – Clarins facial

June 29, 2010 Leave a comment

Well…once again I went for a pampering session and treated myself to a facial.  Thirsty Skin Soother from Clarins to be exact and it was bliss.

My brother-in-law got hitched at the end of May and knowing me, I tried to get a facial treatment last-minute to get rid of tired lines on my face.  I noticed them when having pictures and thought I gotta do something about that.  Sods law that there was no availability for about three weeks.  Anyway Clarins had a special offer at the time so I ended up booking it for today.  Folks, I do not regret it for a minute.

I’ve had a lot of facials over the years and this was the first time I had ever tried Clarins.  My therapist did a consultation prior to the treatment starting and prodded my face (in a nice way) to find out which treatment was the best.  She informed me that my skin was a little congested (I told her I was due on) and a little dehydrated.  She recommended the Thirsty Skin Soother. Clarins states that this treatment “delivers a moisture rush to dehydrated or sensitive skin, to counteract the effects of pollution, air conditioning and stress.  Taut  skin feels silky-soft, comfortable and glowing again’.

Not only did I have a facial but I also had arms, hands and neck massaged.

I can honestly say that my skin has a glow to it and it feels perky.  I did tell the therapist that it did feel a little bit overdone with oil but that’s not a worry.

Short summary

Would I recommend?    YES

Would I go back?  YES

Rating out of 10 – 8/9

By the way Clarins at House of Fraser are doing a special offer today (29 June 2010 – Book and pay today and get half price treatment)


It’s not a crime to work for someone else after having your own business

June 25, 2010 Leave a comment

I made a major decision to go back to working for someone else after 10 years of being self-employed/having my own business. I always thought that being my own boss was the perfect lifestyle as I could balance work and personal life freely.

I have a care home which specialises in people with learning disabilities as well as an immigration business. Both do very well and I put my hand on my heart to say that the people I work with at both the care home and immigration side are amongst the best staff I have worked with. If it wasn’t for them (and of course the Lord) I don’t know if I would have a business to run now.

Circumstances change and I took a risk at the beginning of the year to start another supported living project which hasn’t yet got off the ground and my profits are being spent on the up keep of this project. Hence one of my decisions to take a step back and reconsider my options.

Another reason was that I had way to much time on my hands and whilst I love spending time with my kids, I found that my time wasn’t constructive or productive from a work level and the care home has a brilliant manager running it so I have little to do there.

After talking it through with my husband, I made a decision to go back to working for another employer whilst still having the other businesses. I felt guilty at first for doing it as I was a great advocate for self employment but people shouldn’t have to feel guilty for going back to work for others.  After being answerable for my own actions for so long, it will be an exiting challenge to go back and have accountability to someone else.

Crab Mentality and Filipinos

June 19, 2010 9 comments

I have been in business for a decade now and have dealt with many nationalities. The majority of my dealings have been fairly positive and I constitute that the negative dealings that I have had have been down to individuals rather than nationalities per se. However, one must be cautious of stereotyping nationalities. Some might say the British are pompous and autocratic.  Others may describe the Americans as obese.  Whilst others may see the Germans as icy, blond and blue-eyed.  These descriptions are stereotypes and are indeed not my own opinion.

However, taking into account that stereotypes is a belief system which needs to be overcome, there must also be an element where nationalities need to consider why they have been stereotyped. Being a Filipina myself, I am sad to say that I have met a handful of Filipino’s who have crab mentality. Crab mentality is a way of thinking best described by the phrase “If I can’t have it then neither can you”.  It is about envy and  can involve putting people down, not allowing others to flourish or when they do flourish, finding fault with their success in order to pull it down or simply having the mindset that “I’m better than you”.

Crab mentality is prevalent in most areas of life but I am going to emphasise it within the business realm.

I had a conversation with a good colleague of mine who was recommending our company to another organisation.  He conveyed to me their conversation. He was asked first off before even describing our principles and our work ethic, if we were Filipino to which he said ‘yes’. They replied ‘Oh, we don’t work with Filipinos’ which he thought was ironic and simply stupid because they themselves were Filipino.
I’ve worked with Filipino’s who try to learn every aspect of the business, try to steal clients and go off on their own business venture only to fall flat on their face.

Do Filipino’s have an incredible appetite for greed? Greed of success or money? If we could all work together and combine specialised skills and knowledge we could accomplish bigger and better things where everyone would and could benefit but it appears that the thinking of our race is one of narrow-mindedness.

Whilst on a shopping trip in the Philippines with my father, I was stuck in the supermarket line for not less than 30 minutes. When I went to inspect what was going on, I found one teller putting items through the till and one packer.  The customer or should I say a line of customers on various other tills waiting for the packer to finish packing. Is it so hard for the customer to assist with the packing in order for the time to pass quicker?  Four hands are better than two right?! I was so annoyed at the fact that the customer just stood there with their arms folded whilst their items got packed. Could this example of crab mentality be a minute reason or a contributing factor why Philippines is still a developing country?

‘It is said that we Filipinos have crab mentality and so we do not attain the progress and prosperity we have long been aspiring for, that it is practiced only by us Filipinos, and that we will remain a poor nation if it is not plucked from our selves’ says Royeca for The Philippine Studies

In light of that I have found 2nd or 3rd generation Filipinos who have been brought up in Western Culture do not have the above traits. Maybe education is the key after all….