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The importance of Christian parenting

August 18, 2011 1 comment

Concerned by the recent riots in the United Kingdom, lawlessness seems rife and a lack of respect for society appears rampant amongst young people today.
I deleted a Facebook contact because I could not stand his vulgar language on his status. Shameful thing was he is a 16 year old relative of mine but every other word was a swear word and it made me cringe. I was even more saddened to hear that his father (who unfortunately is separated from the boy’s mother) has no control over this young man. I believe that you can see good parenting through children’s attitudes and behaviour.

I’m not the perfect parent but I pray daily that God will teach me how to be a good mother. Whilst on holiday with my family, my seven year old son has been leading us in prayer before we go out. We tell him daily how blessed he is to have gone on holiday as many are not as fortunate as him to have been given the same opportunities he has experienced in his young life. We remind him that God is our provider, that God gave his mum and dad their jobs, the food on his table, the clothes on his back, the money to buy his toys with. My two year old daughter has been copying his prayers and at meal times is the first one to remind the rest of the family to pray and give thanks for the food.

I’m so thankful to my mother who is an exemplary Christian teacher to my children. We were driving to Disney World and she led a family discussion about the ten commandments. She did it in a fun way for the kids to understand and my son raised questions which my husband and I were able to answer.

Teaching children about God is a lifestyle and should not be ‘cloak and dagger’. I am always reminded by the bible verse Proverbs 22:6 ‘Train a child in the way that they should go so that when they are old, they will not turn away from it’. There’s too much going on in the world today to not be concerned as to what happens with your child. I heard somewhere that if you don’t discipline a child by the time they are seven, it’s going to be struggle to instil discipline thereafter.

Traffic Sucks!

November 30, 2010 Leave a comment

I left work early today taking into consideration that the British government hadn’t properly prepared for the bad weather conditions. I thought leaving at 3pm would give me ample time to get home at least by 5pm and if I was really fortunate to catch at least 45mins in the gym. How wrong was I?

I thought I was well prepared. I figured my usual 30 minute drive from work to home would take roughly a couple of hours due to the snow. I brought with me 4 small bite size chocolates, a packet of mentos and a bottle of water. I resigned myself to the fact the journey would take as long and psyched myself up. Little did I know that my anticipated 2 hour journey would take a little under 4 and a half hours and I just thank the good Lord for gadgets like the mobile phone to keep me occupied whilst sitting in traffic that did not move. Yep, Twitter and Facebook has never been more entertaining. I got through the bite size chocolates and the packet of mentos but I did give up on drinking the water for fear of not being able to go to the loo. I did not want a full bladder to be the icing on the cake.

I am fortunate to be able to drive a 4×4 in the midst of the snow and I thank God that I changed my bald tyres a couple of weeks back. Though they were expensive to change, I believe God blessed me by knowing the bad weather would come and urged me to change it. I saw so many cars struggle on slip roads and lorry and truck drivers really put their foot on the gas but their vehicles wouldn’t budge.

Another thing that annoyed me was lorry drivers blocking exit roads unnecessarily which made the traffic jam much worse. I thank God that at least I’m home safely and for really giving me the patience to sit through all that mad traffic. I tell you what though, I brought work home with me because I am not gonna sit through that again tomorrow.

Halloween -Should my kids celebrate it?

October 31, 2010 4 comments

My 6-year-old son has been noticing the  Halloween decorations that are vastly displayed in stores.  Whilst we as a family do not celebrate Halloween, it was important for me to educate my son on Halloween and the reasons why we do not celebrate it.

I dug the following information from this website which comes from a very anti-satanism perspective

Where did it begin?

It began over 2000 yrs ago with people known as the Celtics. They lived in what is today England, Ireland, Scotland and Wales. This was also the beginning of the Celtic new year, a time to give thanks to the sun-god for the harvest.

What is it all about?

Halloween, All saints day, All hallows eve or All souls day is a festival. It was held to honor the Samhain the so-called “lord of death”. It was a Druidical belief that on the eve of this festival Samhain, lord of death, called together the wicked spirits that within the past 12 months had been condemned to inhabit the bodies of animals.

It was a pagan belief that on one night of the year the souls of the dead return to their original homes, there to be entertained with food. If food and shelter were not provided, these evil spirits would cast spells and cause havoc toward those failing to fulfill their requests.

Sacrifices were offered on this night to the dead spirits because it was thought they visited their earthly dwellings and former friends.

There was a prevailing belief among all nations that at death the souls of the good men were taken possession of by good spirits and carried to paradise; but the souls of the wicked men were left to wonder in the space between the earth and the moon, or consigned to the unseen world. These wandering spirits were in the habit of haunting the living…But there were means by which ghosts might be exorcised.

To exorcise these ghosts, that is to free yourself from their evil sway, you would have to set out food and provide shelter for them during the night. If they were satisfied with your offerings, they would leave you in peace. If not, they were believed to cast an evil spell on you.

In modern day Satanism and Witchcraft covens, this is the day when Satan himself comes to “fellowship” with his followers. Many changes have occurred over the centuries, but one thing ha stayed the same, the practice of giving an “offering” has stayed the same. Oh we do it under the name of fun but what is the real meaning? Is it still the same as in the old days? The answer is YES.

What does the Bible say?

Young children are innocent in their thinking and as parents we have a responsibility to teach them what is right and wrong.  The Word of God tells us

1 Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil

Deuteronomy 18:10 There shall not be found among you any one that makes his                                                         son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that uses                                                                 divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a                                                               witch.

If you are a practising Christian, you should not take part in this un-holy day and teaching your children about Halloween and the origins of it will make them wiser .

Week 4- Teaching my child about God

October 23, 2010 2 comments

For a minute I thought I was beginning to loose the momentum of sharing and teaching Sam about the Christian faith but it’s important as parents that we stick to some kind of routine with children so they know what to expect from us. I had been taking Sam to tennis lessons which he really enjoyed and for one reason or another I missed a lesson and then another and then one more. Sam then got used to not going and then decided he didnt want to go anymore.
Due to this experience I am persuaded to keep the momentum with teaching Sam about God.
This week Sam is learning about the value of prayer. Matt 21:22 ‘if you believe, you will get anything in prayer’.

I proposed that when Sam has learnt 10 memory verses, I will give him a token of money so he can save up to buy something that he wants. This ways he is also learning about the value of money and what it means to save up for something that he really wants rather than for me or his dad to buy it for him.

Sam was also very intrigued about the story of Lot and his wife running from Sodom and Gomorrah and the consequences of not listening and obeying Gods word.

Week 3- Ministering to Kids

October 15, 2010 Leave a comment

I was in two minds of the memory verse that I wanted to teach Sam this week. My first choice was John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes in him will not perish but will have eternal life”. The second was Genesis 1:1 “In the beginning God created the Heavens and the earth”.

I chose the latter as I thought the first choice, no matter how much I thought he needed to know it was too much for his little mind.

He absolutely loved learning Genesis 1:1 and did word colouring and drew me a beautiful picture of God’s creation.

We also reached a lovely milestone as Sam has become very good with reading. I helped him find his 3 memory verses in the Bible. Sam has learnt at school how the contents of a book work. He went to the contents of the Bible and searched for each of the memory verses Luke 2:11, Col 3:20 and Genesis 1:1 and was able to see how they integrated into the Bible. He was absolutely fascinated searching for the books, the big numbers and then the little numbers after.

Every evening, Sam has been praying since a very young age and if his little sister is still up (she’ll be two in March) she will agree by saying something that sounds like ‘Amen’.

Remember children follow what their parents do. A praying parent will reap prayerful children.

Week 2 – Ministering to kids

October 15, 2010 Leave a comment

I have to say a huge sorry to my readers who have been keeping up with this diary for not writing sooner. I got told off today for not keeping it up 😦

Last week my 6 year old- Sam, and I focused on Col.3:20 which says “ Children obey your parents in all things for this pleases the Lord”. I typed the memory verse out which he then cut into a card and blue taked it to the bathroom mirror. He loved doing this task and everytime he brushed his teeth, he would read and recite the verse.

For practicality, when Sam didn’t listen to what I asked him to do, I would ask him “what is the memory verse this week?”. I would look at him and I could see his mind starting to work and he would tell me.

I would then ask him if by not listening to me, was he pleasing the Lord to which he would reply ‘No’ followed by a very sombre ‘sorry’.

I find relating learning to everyday life reinforces the teaching and what’s even more thrilling is seeing how real Jesus is to my little one.

Week 1- Day 3 Ministering to kids

September 29, 2010 Leave a comment

Well its day 3 of the 1st week and my 6 year old has mastered Luke 2:11. Each day since Monday after school homework he has been enthusiastic to learn more about Jesus and remind me that we are going to do it together. It’s a beautiful feeling for him to ask me than for me to put pressure on him to learn about God.

Still focusing on Luke 2:11, yesterday the verse’s words were all muddled up so he had fun guessing what the words were whilst looking at the verse to make sure that it was correct. Today I sat with him at the computer while he put the verse’s picture puzzle together.

To ensure learning took place I asked him two questions

1. What was the name of the city where the Saviour was born?

2. Who was born in the city of David?

He got both answers right and was able to recite the verse.

For bed time story this evening, I read to him the ‘crossing of the Red Sea’ from ‘The Biggest Bible Storybook’ to which he had many, many questions. He ended with a prayer saying ‘Thank you God for opening the Red Sea’.

I am so blessed.

Week 1 – Ministering to my kids

September 27, 2010 Leave a comment

Yesterday evening whilst in prayer, I was a little emotional as I really miss going to prayer meetings and bible studies.  I find it difficult to go as I work full-time, pick up the kids, feed them, do homework and then bedtime is 8:30pm hence very little time do much else.  It was also through prayer that The Lord reminded me that I am able to minister to my children. I stumbled upon a beautiful website, www.DiscipleLikeJesus and was challenged to take the time to minister to my own children and teach them about God, Jesus, His word and His love.

Every week, I will be sharing how I am ministering to them and pray that you will also find this useful.

I warn you…ministering to kids takes time and effort but its justified. At least you can stand in front of God and say that you took up the responsibility of teaching your kids about God’s glorious kingdom.

Week 1

Today I visited to look for a memory verse my six year old could learn.  I took Luke 2:11 and wrote the verse for him in a book and also printed for my son the memory verse which was jumbled up and he had to put the words back in order. He had fun cutting up the words, reading the verse and then putting the words in order of the verse.

At bed time, I will be reading him a story from The Biggest Bible Storybook.  He can choose which story he would like me to read from and then we will end the story with a prayer about the day.  Thanking God for all the things that have happened and for all the people who are around him

Hand me downs, do you accept them for your kids?

April 11, 2010 Leave a comment

I’ve just spent some time sorting through my one year old daughters clothes. It’s amazing what she’s got through and some clothes she’s only ever worn once or twice.

Some people would never even think of allowing their kids to wear other children’s clothes.

For me, I thank God that I am never in lack and able to afford a lot of things. However, having hand me down clothing is actually a huge blessing. Both my 5 year old son and my one year old daughter have had hand me downs and they will continue to have them if people are willing to give them 🙂

Brand new clothing can be expensive and when kids only wear them a couple of times it’s a wonder why we would spend that money in the first place. A friend of mine just gave clothes that her daughter has grown out of. Some of the clothes are actually designer clothing whilst other garments are still in very good condition so I chose which I would keep and which I would give to charity.

There are some things that I wouldn’t accept hand me downs for and that’s underwear.

Oh and if your contemplating giving away clothes, choose clothes that are still in good condition and don’t look tatty and worn out.

5 Secrets to be a good wife

March 31, 2010 Leave a comment

Remember the day when you first had a crush on your husband.  Many of us may have thought ‘I wonder if he’ll be mine’.  During the dating stages, the girl more than likely would have spent a considerable time getting ready in order to make herself presentable and appealing to her future mate.  We would also have thought about saying the right things so that the guy would like not only what he saw in appearance but also our personalities.

When we get married, we often take for granted the early days of courtship and how we use to make the effort of getting the partner to like us.  The novelty of courtship usually wears out after the first couple of years of marriage.

Here are a few tips to remind you on how to be a good wife.

1.  Take care of your personal grooming.

Whilst husbands should love us for the way we are, we need to keep them from having a roaming eye and keep their heart and everything else at home.  First and foremost, take care of your appearance because YOU want to.  Certainly having clothes for comfort, especially when we have kids, is practical when we don’t have the time but make an effort to look worthy as you would for your friends or work.  Would you still be attracted to your husband if he didn’t keep to his own personal grooming by brushing his teeth or combing his hair or wearing shabby clothes?

2.  Turn down the nagging

We are all human and hence all humans make mistakes.  In the eyes of a wife, husbands can make them more often than anyone else on the planet. Wives have a tendency to see the smallest things and make them into something big.  Many arguments could have easily been avoided.

As a wife myself, I have one less thing to nag about which is my own husband’s cupboard.  It use to really irritate me when I had done the laundry and folded everything up to then go into his cupboard and find his clothes had gone haywire.  I remember I would always kick up a fuss when he got home from work.  Now to keep the peace, his clothes are folded and left at the edge of the bed for him to put away himself.  That way I don’t have to look into his cupboard and get myself uptight over the state that it might be in should I open it.  We haven’t argued about his cupboard now for years.

Try to let go of one thing every so often that you find yourself nagging him about.  The woman your husband married was a pleasant, warm and loving person.  You may not be that person, your husband sees now.  Allow your husband to see the woman he fell in love with.

3.  Keep him happy in bed

A friend once told me ‘when thing’s start to go wrong in the bedroom, things will wrong in the relationship’.  Love making is a beautiful part in marriage and should not be seen as a chore.  Sure, men’s sexual needs can be higher than a womans and women may crave for more physical affection but as we women know, this does not have to be in the form of sex.  Unfortunately the majority of men will look for it elsewhere if they no longer get it at home or if the woman is hostile when she does give it to him.  Sex is a healthy part of marriage and the lack of it may signify a problem.

4.  Be supportive

A man’s ego can easily get knocked down by negative comments and rebuilding it back up may be a heavy task.  The one person whose opinion will mean more than anybody elses is your opinion to your husband.   Be supportive of your husbands work, decisions, his hobbies and personal interests.  Also be supportive of him when in it comes to your in-laws even if you don’t get on with them.  The bible says that a man will leave his father and mother to be joined with his wife and although you may not see it, your husband loves you regardless of what you may think of his parents.  Remember this, mother’s usually loose their sons to wives but when a daughter gets married, mothers gain a son. Think of your own circumstances.  How close are you to your own parents to that of your in-laws?  Generally speaking, daughters ties to their own families are harder to break than that of sons.  So cut your husband some slack and try to get on with your in-laws for the sake of supporting your husband.  After all, your husband may practically live with your parents 🙂

5.  Express your love and appreciation often

A woman loves compliments  and a man also dotes on praise.  It makes them feel good and appreciated.  When your husband is at home, try and do things for him too so that if these things were to go missing, he would miss you and think about you when you’re not around.  Try and join him in activities that he would like to do such as watch the football as there may have been many a time when you have dragged an unwiling spouse round the mall for a day or made him watch a chick flick and remember he did those things to please you.  A woman forgives hard when he has forgotten an occassion such as a birthday or anniversary so try and remember special dates and remind him of your love and appreciation.