Halloween -Should my kids celebrate it?

October 31, 2010 4 comments

My 6-year-old son has been noticing the  Halloween decorations that are vastly displayed in stores.  Whilst we as a family do not celebrate Halloween, it was important for me to educate my son on Halloween and the reasons why we do not celebrate it.

I dug the following information from this website which comes from a very anti-satanism perspective

Where did it begin?

It began over 2000 yrs ago with people known as the Celtics. They lived in what is today England, Ireland, Scotland and Wales. This was also the beginning of the Celtic new year, a time to give thanks to the sun-god for the harvest.

What is it all about?

Halloween, All saints day, All hallows eve or All souls day is a festival. It was held to honor the Samhain the so-called “lord of death”. It was a Druidical belief that on the eve of this festival Samhain, lord of death, called together the wicked spirits that within the past 12 months had been condemned to inhabit the bodies of animals.

It was a pagan belief that on one night of the year the souls of the dead return to their original homes, there to be entertained with food. If food and shelter were not provided, these evil spirits would cast spells and cause havoc toward those failing to fulfill their requests.

Sacrifices were offered on this night to the dead spirits because it was thought they visited their earthly dwellings and former friends.

There was a prevailing belief among all nations that at death the souls of the good men were taken possession of by good spirits and carried to paradise; but the souls of the wicked men were left to wonder in the space between the earth and the moon, or consigned to the unseen world. These wandering spirits were in the habit of haunting the living…But there were means by which ghosts might be exorcised.

To exorcise these ghosts, that is to free yourself from their evil sway, you would have to set out food and provide shelter for them during the night. If they were satisfied with your offerings, they would leave you in peace. If not, they were believed to cast an evil spell on you.

In modern day Satanism and Witchcraft covens, this is the day when Satan himself comes to “fellowship” with his followers. Many changes have occurred over the centuries, but one thing ha stayed the same, the practice of giving an “offering” has stayed the same. Oh we do it under the name of fun but what is the real meaning? Is it still the same as in the old days? The answer is YES.

What does the Bible say?

Young children are innocent in their thinking and as parents we have a responsibility to teach them what is right and wrong.  The Word of God tells us

1 Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil

Deuteronomy 18:10 There shall not be found among you any one that makes his                                                         son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that uses                                                                 divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a                                                               witch.

If you are a practising Christian, you should not take part in this un-holy day and teaching your children about Halloween and the origins of it will make them wiser .

Week 4- Teaching my child about God

October 23, 2010 2 comments

For a minute I thought I was beginning to loose the momentum of sharing and teaching Sam about the Christian faith but it’s important as parents that we stick to some kind of routine with children so they know what to expect from us. I had been taking Sam to tennis lessons which he really enjoyed and for one reason or another I missed a lesson and then another and then one more. Sam then got used to not going and then decided he didnt want to go anymore.
Due to this experience I am persuaded to keep the momentum with teaching Sam about God.
This week Sam is learning about the value of prayer. Matt 21:22 ‘if you believe, you will get anything in prayer’.

I proposed that when Sam has learnt 10 memory verses, I will give him a token of money so he can save up to buy something that he wants. This ways he is also learning about the value of money and what it means to save up for something that he really wants rather than for me or his dad to buy it for him.

Sam was also very intrigued about the story of Lot and his wife running from Sodom and Gomorrah and the consequences of not listening and obeying Gods word.

Week 3- Ministering to Kids

October 15, 2010 Leave a comment

I was in two minds of the memory verse that I wanted to teach Sam this week. My first choice was John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes in him will not perish but will have eternal life”. The second was Genesis 1:1 “In the beginning God created the Heavens and the earth”.

I chose the latter as I thought the first choice, no matter how much I thought he needed to know it was too much for his little mind.

He absolutely loved learning Genesis 1:1 and did word colouring and drew me a beautiful picture of God’s creation.

We also reached a lovely milestone as Sam has become very good with reading. I helped him find his 3 memory verses in the Bible. Sam has learnt at school how the contents of a book work. He went to the contents of the Bible and searched for each of the memory verses Luke 2:11, Col 3:20 and Genesis 1:1 and was able to see how they integrated into the Bible. He was absolutely fascinated searching for the books, the big numbers and then the little numbers after.

Every evening, Sam has been praying since a very young age and if his little sister is still up (she’ll be two in March) she will agree by saying something that sounds like ‘Amen’.

Remember children follow what their parents do. A praying parent will reap prayerful children.

Week 2 – Ministering to kids

October 15, 2010 Leave a comment

I have to say a huge sorry to my readers who have been keeping up with this diary for not writing sooner. I got told off today for not keeping it up 😦

Last week my 6 year old- Sam, and I focused on Col.3:20 which says “ Children obey your parents in all things for this pleases the Lord”. I typed the memory verse out which he then cut into a card and blue taked it to the bathroom mirror. He loved doing this task and everytime he brushed his teeth, he would read and recite the verse.

For practicality, when Sam didn’t listen to what I asked him to do, I would ask him “what is the memory verse this week?”. I would look at him and I could see his mind starting to work and he would tell me.

I would then ask him if by not listening to me, was he pleasing the Lord to which he would reply ‘No’ followed by a very sombre ‘sorry’.

I find relating learning to everyday life reinforces the teaching and what’s even more thrilling is seeing how real Jesus is to my little one.

Week 1- Day 3 Ministering to kids

September 29, 2010 Leave a comment

Well its day 3 of the 1st week and my 6 year old has mastered Luke 2:11. Each day since Monday after school homework he has been enthusiastic to learn more about Jesus and remind me that we are going to do it together. It’s a beautiful feeling for him to ask me than for me to put pressure on him to learn about God.

Still focusing on Luke 2:11, yesterday the verse’s words were all muddled up so he had fun guessing what the words were whilst looking at the verse to make sure that it was correct. Today I sat with him at the computer while he put the verse’s picture puzzle together.

To ensure learning took place I asked him two questions

1. What was the name of the city where the Saviour was born?

2. Who was born in the city of David?

He got both answers right and was able to recite the verse.

For bed time story this evening, I read to him the ‘crossing of the Red Sea’ from ‘The Biggest Bible Storybook’ to which he had many, many questions. He ended with a prayer saying ‘Thank you God for opening the Red Sea’.

I am so blessed.

Week 1 – Ministering to my kids

September 27, 2010 Leave a comment

Yesterday evening whilst in prayer, I was a little emotional as I really miss going to prayer meetings and bible studies.  I find it difficult to go as I work full-time, pick up the kids, feed them, do homework and then bedtime is 8:30pm hence very little time do much else.  It was also through prayer that The Lord reminded me that I am able to minister to my children. I stumbled upon a beautiful website, www.DiscipleLikeJesus and was challenged to take the time to minister to my own children and teach them about God, Jesus, His word and His love.

Every week, I will be sharing how I am ministering to them and pray that you will also find this useful.

I warn you…ministering to kids takes time and effort but its justified. At least you can stand in front of God and say that you took up the responsibility of teaching your kids about God’s glorious kingdom.

Week 1

Today I visited akidsheart.com to look for a memory verse my six year old could learn.  I took Luke 2:11 and wrote the verse for him in a book and also printed for my son the memory verse which was jumbled up and he had to put the words back in order. He had fun cutting up the words, reading the verse and then putting the words in order of the verse.

At bed time, I will be reading him a story from The Biggest Bible Storybook.  He can choose which story he would like me to read from and then we will end the story with a prayer about the day.  Thanking God for all the things that have happened and for all the people who are around him

Our Turkish Escapade

September 1, 2010 Leave a comment

Turkey wasn’t at all like I expected although I actually didn’t have any preconceived ideas (not sure if that makes any sense). Much of Turkey is still being developed but you couldn’t miss the Western influence in the form of cars, shopping outlets and of course McDonald’s and Starbucks.

However, I went for a two-week family break and that is exactly what I got. We stayed at the Apollonium Resort- part of Club la Costa. Ammenities were good and provided what we needed; – pool, restaurant but most of all we definitely got the sun.

I liberally covered my kids with sun protection and we tended to avoid the midday sun as the heat was unbearable so if you are thinking of holidaying in Turkey, temperatures can reach 42°C in August and there were some days where my hubby and I avoided the midday sun for the sake of the children because it was just too hot for them.

If you’re anything like us and want to see places we saved £££’s hiring a car and doing things on our own rather than going on scheduled excursions. For example to go on a planned trip with an organiser to see Ephesus (a must see archaeological site) would usually cost an adult £32 and a child £22 (approx.) so we were extremely happy with the savings that we made. Ephesus is a great place to visit if you like history.  For me, the Bible came alive and it was nice to be in the part of town where St. Paul himself visited.  However, be warned Ephesus is in open air and the heat can be a bit much for young children.  In fact it isn’t very child friendly as the paths were stony and the buggy was hard to push around.   If you do get the opportunity to visit Ephesus, wear a sun-hat or bring an umbrella to protect you from the sun’s rays and bring bottled water as the walk from top to bottom is 2.2km.

Another great place to visit is Kushadashi- a vibrant town where there are international ports where the cruises dock and shopping is a must. I couldn’t get my head around the ‘genuine fake designer bags’. The quality of the fake bags is very good not that I bought any mind you 🙂 oo and you must barter with the locals to  and try to get the best deal. Things like Jewellery and pashmina scarfs were also in abundance which make great gifts.

Turkish food was fresh and gorgeous and very healthy although I must admit I am now kebabed out!! Food wasn’t at all what I would call expensive. A kebab meal with salad and rice would cost about 15TL about £6 so very reasonable.  If you do visit the small town of Akbuk, try out the Garden Restaurant, their meals are delicious and with the scenic view of the mountain to the left and the sea straight ahead, you won’t ever forget it.

I was told before I left for our holiday that the Turks love kids which I myself found a bit odd.  I didn’t realise that my little girl would attract so many people’s attention in Turkey.  People would actually stop on the streets to coo and try to make her laugh and showed her a very friendly warmth that I as a parent didn’t find threatening in any way at all.

Driving in Turkey is like a walk in the park, very easy-going and stress free. There isn’t anything like rush hour traffic and  as far as I could see and there are only ever 5 or 6 cars ahead of you.If you are used to right hand driving, be prepared to the left hand drive but very easy to get the hang of.  Unfortunately petrol prices are the same as the UK with only a few pence difference but I highly recommend hiring a car for getting out and about and seeing a few places.

Milli Park, the national park near Kushadashi is a great place to visit where the locals go for a picnic and to spend time soaking up the sun.  I wrongly thought that it was a park where we would see animals and so forth but the main attraction is the sandy beaches so don’t be like us…bring your towels and your swimming costume.

Apart from having received stitches…well…8 steristrips across  a gash that I had on my leg for jumping off the pier…I would love to re-visit Turkey and explore the enticing places that we could not visit.

Insurance renewals are a con

July 6, 2010 8 comments

My current car insurance providers were going to charge me a whopping £891.15 for my renewal at the end of the month. A good £200 more than what I paid for last year.  I was adamant there was absolutely no way on earth that I was going to pay such an enormous amount.

I therefore went on a comparison website for car insurance and actually got a deal saving me £230.00. Hence my car insurance would only cost me £660.00 for the coming year.  The crazy thing is that the saving is actually with my current insurers.  I  phoned the insurance company and told them that I went to a comparison website and got a better deal on-line albeit with the same company and refused to pay the price on my renewal letter.  They were apologetic and renewed my insurance with the on-line price.

If you’re anything like me and want to save a few bob, make sure that you shop around before you renew any kind of insurance – motor, car, travel, contents etc.. I can assure you that  on-line window shopping for renewals of any kind will save you money.  Click here for my most favoured comparison website moneysupermarket.com


Highly recommended – Clarins facial

June 29, 2010 Leave a comment

Well…once again I went for a pampering session and treated myself to a facial.  Thirsty Skin Soother from Clarins to be exact and it was bliss.

My brother-in-law got hitched at the end of May and knowing me, I tried to get a facial treatment last-minute to get rid of tired lines on my face.  I noticed them when having pictures and thought I gotta do something about that.  Sods law that there was no availability for about three weeks.  Anyway Clarins had a special offer at the time so I ended up booking it for today.  Folks, I do not regret it for a minute.

I’ve had a lot of facials over the years and this was the first time I had ever tried Clarins.  My therapist did a consultation prior to the treatment starting and prodded my face (in a nice way) to find out which treatment was the best.  She informed me that my skin was a little congested (I told her I was due on) and a little dehydrated.  She recommended the Thirsty Skin Soother. Clarins states that this treatment “delivers a moisture rush to dehydrated or sensitive skin, to counteract the effects of pollution, air conditioning and stress.  Taut  skin feels silky-soft, comfortable and glowing again’.

Not only did I have a facial but I also had arms, hands and neck massaged.

I can honestly say that my skin has a glow to it and it feels perky.  I did tell the therapist that it did feel a little bit overdone with oil but that’s not a worry.

Short summary

Would I recommend?    YES

Would I go back?  YES

Rating out of 10 – 8/9

By the way Clarins at House of Fraser are doing a special offer today (29 June 2010 – Book and pay today and get half price treatment)


It’s not a crime to work for someone else after having your own business

June 25, 2010 Leave a comment

I made a major decision to go back to working for someone else after 10 years of being self-employed/having my own business. I always thought that being my own boss was the perfect lifestyle as I could balance work and personal life freely.

I have a care home which specialises in people with learning disabilities as well as an immigration business. Both do very well and I put my hand on my heart to say that the people I work with at both the care home and immigration side are amongst the best staff I have worked with. If it wasn’t for them (and of course the Lord) I don’t know if I would have a business to run now.

Circumstances change and I took a risk at the beginning of the year to start another supported living project which hasn’t yet got off the ground and my profits are being spent on the up keep of this project. Hence one of my decisions to take a step back and reconsider my options.

Another reason was that I had way to much time on my hands and whilst I love spending time with my kids, I found that my time wasn’t constructive or productive from a work level and the care home has a brilliant manager running it so I have little to do there.

After talking it through with my husband, I made a decision to go back to working for another employer whilst still having the other businesses. I felt guilty at first for doing it as I was a great advocate for self employment but people shouldn’t have to feel guilty for going back to work for others.  After being answerable for my own actions for so long, it will be an exiting challenge to go back and have accountability to someone else.